Imagine if the man you just started dating says “let’s go to my place and have sex?” Chances are, you would dump him if his cheeks are not met by your slap. This is the reason some Tsonga men have mastered the art of luring their women into the bedroom without actually saying it. We’ve heard of things like “I’ll put in just the tip” when men want to have sex with their women. But I don’t think you’re ready for what Tsonga men say. My grandmother once told me that the reason she married my late grandfather is that he promised to buy herRead More →

Do you ever wonder if you’re dating an age appropriate partner? While taking into account that age is nothing but a number; sometimes you just want to find out if the person you’re with might be too young for you! Like any other South African culture, we also have traditional “happy” songs that we would normally sing at ceremonies for celebratory reasons. However, technology is taking over everything including music, therefore most traditional songs have been replaced by electro songs. Your partner may know Bengu Bengu and Tshetsha but do they know these lyrics? If they don’t know these lyrics, they’re too young. “Thimbya rimbya! ThimbyaRead More →

It can be a bit tricky to tell if you’re head over heels in love with the woman in your life, especially if you’ve just entered a relationship. There are signs you can lookout for to know if you’re really into her.   If you find yourself doing the following things; you’re definitely crazy about her. You never forget what she says: If you’re able to remember what she tells you all the time, it indicates that you take her seriously. You’re courteous: You’re well mannered towards her as what she thinks about you is important. You take care of her: Whether it is inRead More →

It doesn’t matter if you’re Tsonga or not, a woman or not – in Lucille Ball’s words, “Love yourself first and everything else will fall into place.” In a society that pressures women [and men] to act and be a certain way, the Brutal Fruit #bravetoloveme campaign is about breaking stereotypes and stripping normative labels that marginalise those who don’t “fit into society’s beauty mould”.  It motivates women from all walks of life to be brave and unapologetic about who and what they are, and also challenges young women to ask themselves: what does it mean to be brave enough to love yourself? Leanne Martin,Read More →